Still Not a Robot

Still Not a Robot

Having it All

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Alia Luria
Aug 15, 2013
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There has been a lot of discussion in the media over the last year or so (especially with the release of Sheryl Sandberg's book Lean In, which I confess I have not yet read) about whether women (or men for that matter) can really "have it all." I have thought a lot about this over the years as I struggle to balance a career, my personal life and my personal aspirations.

After a lot of pondering and consideration, I think we need to stop focus on trying to have it all and focus on trying to have what we want. This may seem like a simplification of a complex matter, and that is because it is. However, from personal experience, and that is all I can speak to, I became a lot happier with my life when I let go of the pressure to "have it all" and just focused on what I wanted.

It comes to priorities, and each of us has different priorities. We shouldn't judge each other for making choices to prioritize those things that are important to us. For me, letting go of the pressure to have children…

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